A Letter to Jennifer Lawrence

I am not thin. I don’t have a six pack. I don’t have perfectly toned legs and I most definitely can’t fit into skinny jeans. Does this make me a fashion heretic?

I’m going to say “no”. I am a confident man, who knows what I like and has no problem just being who I am. I have a size 34 waist and sometimes need to buy a 36 to fit my butt and legs in them. That does not make me someone that can’t relate to fashion. I like who I am.

Sure, I like to indulge in sweets and the occasional Wendy’s midnight run. This doesn’t make a person that is not to be valued, looked at, admired, or even someone to be imitated at times. (Even if it’s just to make a joke at my expense.)

Jennifer Lawrence took a stand today for everyone that has ever had these insecurities. It isn’t just girls that deal with this…it is men as well. Constantly being compared to Channing Tatums, Ryan Goslings, and every other Hollywood heartthrob out there, definitely takes it’s toll. That is why I’d like to write a letter to Ms. Lawrence.

Dear Jennifer,

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for the comments you made during your press conference. I agree, screw those people. The value that people have placed on being thin, or muscular, is truly disheartening. I worry for my niece to go to school, because I don’t want to see her hurt. I worry about my nephew to go out and play because of the mark on his face. It makes him beautiful and he is so sweet when he smiles.

When I was in elementary school, I got called marshmallow boy. I wasn’t the thin, lean, football player type like the other boys in my class. I was bulky and had a belly. I was made fun of, left out, and treated awful by this group of “popular” kids. These comments still haunt me to this day and cause me to look in the mirror and wince. I’m working to change that, because there is no one that I’d rather be than me.

I love to eat too. If you are ever in Salt Lake City, let’s grab some pad thai. I know a great place that is delicious.

Thank you again,



  1. Here Here! Who did’t have a hard time growing up? At 36 now, I grew up in an age before the internet was around and it was hard enough back then. Kids used to tease me just because I had long eyelashes, so I used to trim them to try to blend in and conform to the standard idea of masculinity. That was the least of my problems back then. I am just now starting to turn away from what is considered and the “norm” or popular and am just trying to be me and it’s so much more fulfilling. I can only hope this new generation of over stimulated children will somehow learn proper values along the way. Thank you for posting this and your letter to Jen, which is really to us.

    • You’re very welcome Adam. I had my struggles to conform in middle school and high school. It really isn’t a fun way to live, but I don’t know if I would do it any different. Every heartbreak, every tear, was a step closer to being the strong man that I am today.

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